I started this blog in 2009 and it has become a sort of diary for me. Reading back I can see actually how much I have changed to become the person I am today. Some of those principles I still live by and some passion may have taken another route. It is interesting for me and I think it's time to give my 16 years old self some advice.
Here is a few things I wish I knew when I was 16:
1. Don't listen to what everybody says
People will gossip, will have an opinion about you, will critique you but you don't have to listen to everything. There will always be someone who speaks the worst of you, bully you and makes you feel like you are worth nothing. You are a lot more than that, so CHOOSE what you want to hear!
As you grow older, you will care less about what people think of you so speak your mind.
2. Love yourself: being different is AWESOME!
At 16, you are still struggling to find out your place in the world. Don't be afraid to be different and don't let other people push you down. It is okay not to meet those "expectations". You will care less what people think of you because really, it adds nothing to your life.
You can't be happy until you are happy with yourself, your body and be comfortable as you!
By the way, being confident at being you is super sexy! ;)
3. Less is more!
This apply to everything: appreciate the small but meaningful relationships you have, liberate yourself by own what you need. Having to pack and unpack all the time, you will realise that actually you can survive on very little but those little things will be so meaningful!
Buy less stuff, own less things and live as minimalist as you can. Think of it this way: how many hours of hard work does it takes for you to buy that thing? Is it really worth it? Also having a few but good items of clothing - you will always know exactly what looks good on you :) Take the hassle out of making decisions!
Life is short. You will learn that your life could end at any moment, today, tomorrow or the right the next hour. You don't know what can happen. So no, you don't have to be perfect.
Do what you love, make that damn mistake and not regret it, laugh at yourself and just cherish the simplicity of living.
Go out there and try some new!
5. Have principles and live by it.
Some people may try to change you and you may feel bad that you're not perfect enough. Don't do it unless it is important to you. Never try to change for anyone. Live by your principles: that girl that hate plastic waste, that girl that loves the ocean, that girl that is a bit obsessed with geography.
6. Be driven and dream big!
Never give up on your passion and be determined to get it. You have to think you can do it to be able to do it!
7. You will probably fall quickly with the first person that shows you intimacy
It is okay that you never have a crush over somebody until like uni because when you meet them, they will truly be special. They will drive you nuts, you will probably overthink everything but don't worry, just let it play out! Also, you will make stupid mistakes but you will get over it.
Enjoy the simplicity of holding hands, staring into each other eyes and may be wait for the special moment your lips meet?
8. Life is tough or easy - take it with a pinch of salt!
There are going to be moment when you think the world is coming down on you, that your life is falling apart and you question your ability to do anything at all. If life was easy, what is the point?
Those darkest moment will pass, they will make you strong and they will become a part of you.
That problem that you have: please don't let it rule you life. Please don't forget how awesome you are and please try to forgive that person that hated for so long. They ain't worth the pain you put yourself through. Just let it go!
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